Naming an executor is one of the most personal choices in an estate plan. Many people automatically name a spouse, an adult child, or a sibling. That can work well. But the question of whether a family member should be an executor deserves more thought than it often gets, because the role involves real work, deadlines, and sometimes difficult family conversations.
This article explains what an executor does, the pros and cons of choosing a family member, alternatives to consider, and questions to discuss with your estate attorney.
What Does an Executor Do?
An executor, sometimes called a personal representative, is the person responsible for settling your estate after you pass away. The exact duties depend on state law and the size of the estate, but they commonly include the following.
Common Executor of Estate Duties
Filing with the probate court: Submitting the will and requesting appointment.
Locating assets: Finding accounts, property, and important documents.
Notifying creditors and beneficiaries: Following required notice rules.
Paying debts and expenses: Using estate funds to pay valid bills.
Filing tax returns: Including the final individual return and any estate returns, usually with a CPA.
Distributing assets: Transferring what remains according to the will.
Keeping records: Tracking every transaction for beneficiaries and the court.
How Long the Role Can Last
Settling an estate may take months, and sometimes longer for complex estates or when disagreements arise. It is a meaningful time commitment.
Pros of Naming a Family Member as Executor
There are good reasons many people choose a relative.
Trust and familiarity: A family member may know your wishes, your history, and your relationships.
Cost: Family members sometimes waive or reduce the compensation they may be entitled to.
Personal care: A loved one may handle sentimental items and family matters with special sensitivity.
Availability of records: A spouse or child may already know where documents are kept.
Cons and Challenges to Consider
Being an executor can be demanding, especially while grieving.
Time and stress: The role can involve paperwork, phone calls, and deadlines over many months.
Family conflict: Naming one child over another may create tension, and an executor who is also a beneficiary may face questions about fairness.
Complexity: A business, out-of-state property, or trusts can make settlement more difficult.
Distance: A family member who lives far away may find the role harder. Some states, including Ohio and Florida, have rules about who can serve as an out-of-state executor. Ask your attorney how they apply.
Personal liability: Executors have legal duties, and mistakes can create problems.
Questions to Ask Before Choosing a Family Member
These questions may help you decide whether a family member should be your executor.
About the Person
Is this person organized, patient, and comfortable with paperwork?
Do they have the time to take this on?
Do they get along with the other beneficiaries?
Have I asked them whether they are willing to serve?
About Your Estate
Is my estate simple or complex?
Do I own a business, real estate in another state, or interests in trusts?
Are there family dynamics that could lead to disagreement?
About Backups
Who will serve if my first choice cannot?
Would co-executors help or create more friction?
Alternatives and Combinations
Choosing an executor does not have to be all or nothing.
Co-executors: A family member can serve alongside another person, though co-executors must often act together.
Professional or corporate executor: Some people name an attorney or trust company, especially for complex estates.
Family executor with professional support: A relative can serve while relying on an attorney, CPA, and financial advisor for help.
Using trusts: Some assets may pass through a trust, where a trustee handles administration. Your attorney can explain whether this makes sense.
Our earlier article, Naming Family Members as Executors: What You Should Know, offers more background on this decision.
Helping Your Executor Succeed
Whoever you choose, a little preparation can make their job easier.
Keep an organized list of accounts, advisors, and document locations.
Update beneficiary designations so they match your plan.
Introduce your executor to your attorney, CPA, and financial advisor.
Talk about your wishes while you can explain them in your own words.
How Pinnacle Advisors Can Help
Pinnacle is neither an attorney nor an accountant and does not provide legal or tax advice. Through its Wealth Collaboration™ programs, Pinnacle brings your CPA and attorney to the table to provide holistic planning.
Trust Administration Support
Pinnacle offers trust management services, including the Trustee Scorecard™ and Beneficiary Scorecard™, which may be helpful for families whose plans include trusts.
Planning Across Generations
The Lifetime Wealth Management Program, part of Pinnacle's Wealth Management Programs, is dedicated to creating unique roadmaps based on each family's story.
Who Pinnacle Advisors Serves and Where
Pinnacle works exclusively with individuals, business owners, and their families. The firm serves clients in Ohio, Florida, and across the nation, with its headquarters in Mansfield, Ohio, and offices in Mentor, Medina, and Columbus, Ohio; Sarasota/Bradenton and Tierra Verde, Florida; and Manhattan, Kansas.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Should I make my child the executor of my will?
Many people do. Consider whether your child is organized, available, and able to work fairly with siblings, and talk with your estate attorney about your situation.
Can an executor also be a beneficiary?
Yes. It is common for an executor to also inherit under the will, but it can raise fairness concerns among other beneficiaries.
What if my executor lives in another state?
Rules vary. Some states limit who can serve as an out-of-state executor or require a bond or local agent. Your attorney can explain the rules where you live.
Can I have two executors?
Yes, many states allow co-executors. Keep in mind they may need to agree and act together, which can slow things down.
Does an executor get paid?
Executors may be entitled to compensation under state law or the will. Family members sometimes choose to waive it.
Who should not be an executor?
Someone who is disorganized, unavailable, in conflict with other beneficiaries, or legally ineligible may not be a good fit. Ask your attorney about state requirements.
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